Ruth created The Better Mom community as a safe place for moms to go who know they are not perfect and want to grow to always be the best they can be. It is for moms who LOVE being a wife and mom, but still have those doubts in themselves like, “I have no idea what I’m doing”, or “Everything depends on me”. Ruth continues to say that being a ‘Better Mom’ is not about “making picture-worthy crafts, saving money, cooking nutritious meals, or throwing great birthday parties”. She reveals the secret of becoming a Better Mom is seeing what God is doing in us, and who He is inviting us to become in the process of this beautiful, imperfect journey.
As moms, we sometimes lean to two extremes while momming. We either get so frustrated and ‘glorify in the mess’ (pg.13), or we hold ourselves to a standard of perfection. Both extremes are unhealthy. We need to find peace and enjoy our ‘perfect’ moments, but also relish in the imperfection. This piece of the book really spoke to me, “We don’t have to have too many miles behind us in this momming journey to discover our need for heart-change” (pg.13). I didn’t have the perspective on life that I have gained in the last 8 months. I still question myself and ask, “What am I doing?!”, “Am I doing this right?”, “Should I stop letting her sleep with me?”, or “Do I give in too easily?”. As moms we constantly second guess whether we are making the best decisions for our children. Chapter 2 goes into great depth of helping you connect with God and ensure that you are doing your best. Always remember, “If anyone tries to judge you, remember that they didn’t- and don’t- have it all figured out either!” (pg. 25). As moms we sometimes feel like everything depends on us and we want to create the perfect home for our family. I feel thankful for Daniel, because our home was flooded in Hurricane Harvey, and we moved back in 5 days before I gave birth to Gabriella. Our home was not in order. So, on top of having a newborn, I had no kitchen, no sinks, and moving boxes everywhere. Not only was it difficult for me to keep up with laundry and our daily living, but I was stressed about our home not being in order. Daniel would work all week, and still help me clean the house Saturday mornings. We must remember we are not in this journey alone. Even if you don’t have a spouse, maybe you have a parent, or a friend, but holding onto control alone is EXHAUSTING.
It all that exhaustion, sometimes we lose our identity as an individual. Chapter 5 helps you find your real sense of worth, “God is the true source of our worth. What he says about us matters most” (pg.55). Sometimes we may feel like we are not good enough, or we are not doing all we can, but always remember, “When the house is a mess and dinner isn’t ready, we still have a Father who is pleased with us” (pg. 56). We are good enough for our family, even when things aren’t perfect <3.